Robert McElaney
There are television shows about doctors and nurses but none yet about the salesmen who sell headwalls to hospitals. Robert McElaney, who at 54 died late Sunday from cardiac arrest, could have been beloved by America as the star in his own series.
Robert began his career as a hospital supply representative working alongside his father, Daniel McElaney, at Dale Medical Products, then began his own firm, McElaney Medical Associates, based in Brookline.
Since 2012 he has served as a sales representative for Modular Services Company, based in Oklahoma City.
Conversation was among many skills that came easily for Robert, who was a gifted, multi-sport athlete. He grew up as a regular player at Quincy Tennis Club and was on baseball, soccer and basketball teams in high school. He was named an all-New England goalkeeper at Wilbraham and Monson Academy and earned a spot playing against college players in Boston’s prestigious Park League, the oldest amateur baseball league in the United States. He won a Park League championship in 1991, hitting .315 for the Towne Club while playing first base and right field.
Robert graduated from Wilbraham and Monson in 1983. He attended Clark University before returning to Quincy, his hometown, to work in a variety of jobs, including stints as a fish monger, in a ticket agency and as the owner of a dry cleaning delivery service.
The son of Daniel McElaney and the late Elizabeth McDermott McElaney, Robert was the youngest of five children. He was a central figure in the lives of his siblings Lisa, Kevin, Jack and Anne, as well as their spouses, Abe Morell, Rose McElaney, Nancy Kirk and Phil Rogers. He is also survived by his father’s wife, Gillian Stuart Hamer.
Robert was a major influence on his nieces and nephews — Joanna, Kyle and Samantha McElaney, and Brady and Laura Morell — and two young adults he mentored, Mauro Serrano of Irvine, Calif., and Alicia Lima of Chicago. His death has broken hearts from coast to coast.
While living in the Coolidge Corner neighborhood of Brookline, Robert announced himself wherever he went — Trader Joe’s, Zaftig’s Deli, the Brookline Booksmith — through his gregarious personality. He met few strangers.
The interactions he especially cherished were those spent with family and an ever-expanding network of friends. He was the cousin who stayed in touch and the nephew who always wanted to know how his aunts were doing.
A friend remembers him as “one of those unique characters with tremendous spirit and enthusiasm that made every conversation more interesting.’’ Mauro says Robert “acted as an older brother.’’
Robert was a proud and respected representative for Modular Services. He visited the Oklahoma City office infrequently but was connected to so many there he acquired the nickname “Boston Rob,’’ for both his trademark regional accent and the pride he took in showing his part of the world to visitors.
He dealt in complicated products that aren’t widely known outside of health-care circles. Headwalls are architectural features in patient rooms and other examination and treatment areas.
For the New England hospitals who were among Modular’s clients, Robert was much more than a salesman. He kept a close eye on the projects from the time he put together a proposal until construction was finished. He’s remembered for greeting the drivers of trucks bringing equipment from Oklahoma City with boxes of fresh pizza.
Robert was constantly striving to improve himself and serve others.
His love of tradition put him in an apron, carving turkey for 20-30 people, every Thanksgiving. He was a sharp dresser with a closet full of Italian suits and a collection of dress shoes and watches that made some wonder if he moonlighted in clothing sales.
A young man with an old soul, Robert loved shaves with a straight razor and had strong opinions about cologne. He loved to travel, including trips to Euro Cup soccer matches with his family and weekends at the ACC Basketball Tournament with his father and brothers.
Robert was a dedicated member of Alcoholics Anonymous and lived by the group’s tenets. He made it his daily mission to improve a life and legacy he had built through hard work. He enriched the lives of those in his orbit.
Funeral services and interment will be private.
In lieu of flowers, donations in Robert’s name may be sent to The McElaney Family Fund, Nativity Preparatory School, 39 Lamartine St., Jamaica Plain, MA 02130.
Guestbook Entries
I remember when your family moved in next door. Who are these Philly fans? Well, Rob and I played a lot of games in your back yard and had a lot of fun over the years. He was a good friend with a great sense of humor who will be dearly missed. You are all in my prayers.
Drew
So very sad to learn about Rob’s passing. He and I worked together as sales managers at Dale Medical. Rob was a leader and an excellent sales coach, most importantly he was just a fun person to be around. I have fond memories of our professional interactions. My heart goes to his his entire family.
To the family and friends of Rob McElaney. I was very saddened to hear about the passing of my former colleague. He was full of funny stories while seeming to always push forward in professional and personal pursuits. Gone to soon.
God forbid St. Peter is a Yankees fan.
I worked with Rob at Modular Services Company for many years. Despite the distance between Oklahoma and Massachusetts, we hit it off great and I enjoyed our long and frequent conversations about work, obviously, but also sports, politics, religion, his hip-replacement surgeries, and life in general. We often texted outside of work as well. He would often send me pictures from different baseball ballparks while he was sitting in the stands. My biggest jealousy came when he sent one from Dodger stadium a few years ago. Rob was a unique guy for sure and was very sincere and funny. He really had a desire to be a great headwall salesman and I enjoyed seeing him make great strides in our business over the years. Even though he called often every week, we often joked about the fact that Friday was his biggest call day. We often talked 4 or 5 times on Friday. Friday’s just won’t be the same with Rob gone. I considered him not only a work associate, but a friend. He will be greatly missed. Me and my church family are praying for Rob’s family and friends during this difficult time. God Bless.
Great Guy & Friend.
He Will Be Truly Missed.
RIP my friend.
To the McElaney,
I remember the day your family moved in next door. How come people from Philly talk so funny? Kevin running out of the house going bonkers in 74 when the Flyers beat the B’s in 6. I played a lot of games in your back yard with Rob. We had a lot of laughs, Mr. Andersons wife yelling at house for playing made up baseball games with a tennis ball hitting telephone wires for home runs while she was on the phone. I always loved seeing his name pop up on the phone. He was a good friend who had an enormous sense of humor and he will be missed. You are all in my prayers.
Drew
I am so terribly sorry for this devastating loss for your family. My friendship with Rob goes way back to our teenage years. He has always been such a great friend and was so good about keeping in touch and checking in on me and my family. He was always so happy talking about his family and especially his nieces and nephews. I am completely heartbroken and will selfishly miss his good humor and edgy one-liners. I am keeping the whole McElaney family in my prayers.
With Deepest Sympathy,
Judy Letteney
I am so shocked and saddened to hear of Rob’s passing. May he rest in peace.
My condolences to Robert’s family. I caught a glimpse of the beauty of his family when I was at St. Mary’s in Brookline as his mother was being lovingly cared for as she faced her death. I have every confidence she embraced Robert in heaven.
I had met Rob a few times at Modular Services meetings.A nice man.The medical headwall business is not a easy one,to say the least.Some sales will take 2 to 3 years to close and deliver.This job is for a tenacious person.Rob was one on them.Customer inter action can get quite complicated,it takes a unique person to be in this business.
I will speak for all of the Modular Services Reps,and the Modular Services factory staff.We are sorry for your loss.Ask God to ease your pain.
Respecfully
Tom Zuidema/Modular Rep in South Florida since 2002
Dear Robert
I wish I had met you! You clearly lived a remarkable life touching many.
I am so sorry for your sudden loss. It sounds like he was an amazing person, son, uncle, and brother. I am sure he knew how loved he was. Now is the time to continue to love each other as he would have wanted you to. My love goes out to Jack, Rose, and the girls. I’m still right here Jack.
Your friend and school partner,
Sandy
I am so sorry to hear the passing of Rob. A great guy and a wonderful human being. I had the pleasure of working with him the past few years on a hospital project here in Boston. Got to go on a trip to the factory in OKC and spend some great quality time with Rob and get to know him. Just an amazing soul. Rest in peace my friend.
Adam Maxcy- Skanska
My deepest condolences for your loss.
I met Rob, Mac’a or Brookline Bobby his close friends called him twenty something years ago through Jimmy . Rob had great style clothes horse, funny, unpredictable , sarcastic, caring , educated and most of all just being Rob . We bonded and had a great friendship over the years concerts sporting events two trips 2 Jamaica and rented a house one year down the Cape great times I will never forget . Quick story went to BC hoop game with him and bought a framed autographed picture at a silent auction of Johnny Pesky that hangs at my house and looking at that picture now has a whole different meaning. Rest In Peace my friend, much love . Ken
Rob and I shared several reps when he was a manager at Dale and I was a manager at another company. We talked regularly about territories and got together at meetings or if I was in Boston. When he left Dale I had the pleasure of introducing him to Modular Services and was very happy when he got the position. Having grown up in CT and flying to Boston on a regular basis we would get together for dinner or a Sox game whenever possible. A story which says the kind of guy Rob was…My teenage sons were visiting CT with me one summer and Rob scored some tickets to a Sox game knowing my boys had long wanted to go to Fenway. He drove an hour and a half to pick us up. After the game we went back to CT for a picnic and he drove home. As you can imagine he wouldn’t let me pay for the tickets. Whenever we spoke he always asked about the boys and how they were doing. My boys loved mimicking his accent and regularly asked how their friend “Boston Rob” was doing. RIP my friend.
Our deepest sympathy to family and friends.
The O’Connell Family
To the McElaney Family,
I am so saddened to hear of Rob’s passing, such a devastating loss for you all. We spent a few happy years together and my memories of him are filled with laughter and of his charismatic personality. I remember the high regard he held for his family and how he cherished young Brady. Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss and may Rob rest in peace.
Wishing you all peace and comfort.
Andrea Chapman Pendrak
To the McElaney family. I’m so sorry to hear about Rob’s passing. It was a real pleasure getting to know him over the last 7 years. He was a guy filled with gratitude which made him an easy guy to route for. I agree….A mini-series or a book could definitely be written about the life of Robbie Mac. I will definitely miss our many conversations. I’m proud to call him a friend.
I was shocked and saddened to hear of Rob’s death. Maca was a long time friend. He will be sorely missed. My condolences to the McElaney family.
My deepest sympathies to the McElaney family. My heart weeps with Robs passing. I had the privilege of knowing Rob for many years through my brother Jimmy Kenney. Rob was family. I have such amazing memories of Rob sharing our love of sports, music, Jamaica, humor and friendship. May you Rest In Peace Rob. One Love
I am so sorry to hear of Rob’s passing. He was such a lovely soul; a real gentleman in every sense of the word.
My sincere condolences go out to all of you during this difficult time. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Much love,
Laurie
Rob lived in the same building as I do in Brookline. We didn’t see each other often but when we did, it was always such a pleasure. He just brightened up your day and he always looks so handsome in his beautiful suits. Rob took care of my plant and checked out my condo when I was away for 4 months. It was such a shock and still hard to believe I won’t see his smiling face again.
May he rest in peace.
Al
Rob worked for me for a bit representing ARC Medical. He was a great guy and gone too soon. Condolences to the family.
Sorry to hear of Rob’s passing . . .
I have so many fond memories from living up on Wollaston Hill with the McElaney family as one of my neighbors. Especially with Robby, Father, Dan and Mother Elizabeth. His older brother’s, John, Kevin, sister’s, Lisa and Ann.It was obvious that they where a caring and loving family and truly loved their, son and younger brother Robby.
After moving south to West Bridgewater in 1982 and starting a family we lost touch . . .
When seeing his picture, he reminds me of his father Dan.
My Condolences to the family and friends who will truly miss Robby . . .
Bob Sullivan
I am deeply saddened to hear this news. Rob was a great guy and sales rep. We worked together on a few healthcare projects and were awaiting our next one to come back from being on hold. He was never a high pressured person, always someone you could count on for an answer. My husband and I had a chance to spend some time with him last year at a post-conference event and had such a good time getting to know him more. Thank you to his family for writing such a beautiful remembrance of him. I am truly very sorry for your loss. I will remember him fondly.
My deepest sorrow to the McElaney Family.
I love reading the other stories about Rob and the many nicknames he had, which is a tribute to his character and his connection to others. He was a neighborhood guy.
We met in our junior year at Wilbraham and Monson Academy. Hondo was from Quincy, MA and I was from NYC. We had a city thing in common. Rob was a really good person and a good friend who I could entrust at WMA with anything as he could in me.
We lived in the same dorm, on the same floor, sharing the same bathroom and had the same friends. We ate dinner together mostly every night, sometimes lunch and even breakfast. After study hall we would hangout in my room with a few other cronies, such as his roommate Fish, Hunter & my roommate Kevin McMann. We would do this every night after hours. We would bullsh*& about life and talk sh*& at one another, Ha! I taught Hondo how to play backgammon, we played frequently and ended up having a round robin tournament with the boys above and played for weeks.
Hondo was a great all around athlete, he was the goalie for the WMA soccer team and looked every bit the part, the flashy uniform, the colored gloves, his swagger and he backed it up with his game. For his achievements was named All New England goalkeeper. In celebration to making the playoffs Hondo and few of the teammates shaved their heads, me not on the team I did as well and was named at the public assembly winning the student spirit award. Thanks Hondo ! FYI, my hair never grew back either, lol! WMA went deep into the playoffs for the first time in it’s history.
The road trips we took to NYC, Boston, the Cape will now be lived thru me and the fella’s I mentioned above. Never forgotten. Rob always told it like it was, he was honest and genuine, with his Quincy wiseguy sense of humor. He would wear his shirt buttoned to the top with the collar folded inward, hair was always perfect. Always dapper !
Hondo rest in peace my good friend ! My sincerest prayers and thoughts are with you and the McElaney family always!
I met Rob (Robbie Mac, as I referred to him) 28 years ago when I moved to Boston.
I moved back to California but we have remained in touch and visited a few times over the years.
I haven’t been able to reach him for a month and I was starting to get worried, so I googled and found this.
To Daniel, Lisa, Kevin, Jack & Anne- he spoke highly of you always. Family was always first for Rob.
Rob was a wonderful friend, someone who showed up right when you really needed him, without even asking.
We shared a love of cologne, and I had just turned him on to a new line that he loved!
I will miss him dearly.
Rest In Peace, Friend💜💫
I had the pleasure of working with Rob at Dale Medical. Rob was very personable. He had a wonderful personality. He was always friendly, upbeat, energetic and had a very good sense of humor. He was dedicated to the success of the Dale line of products as well as assisting the sales reps in the field selling those products.
I am very sorry to hear of his passing and offer my prayers and condolences to Rob and his family. He will be greatly missed.
Don DiBlasi